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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]You're not clear. Does she have a fixation on privacy and a fear of getting hacked? Or does she get upset that her relatives don't reach out as much as she wants, and she shoots herself in the foot by cutting them off?[/b]

If the former, it sounds like she has a hyperfocus like some autistic people do. The traditional ASD portrays men as being asocial and fixated on trains/history/etc, but there are some, especially women, who have a desperate need to socialize but don't know how. Also, sometimes, their OCD fixations get in the way. Often, it's germophobia, but sometimes it's a social paranoia like fear of being tracked.

Just putting it out there in case it rings a bell with your mother. There is no cure for that except therapy for the OCD/fixation and meds for anxiety.

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OP here.

Her reasons for this are all of the above, depending on when she is discussing it. It morphs from privacy to fear of getting hacked to being upset that they don't pursue a relationship with her in the way she wants.

She has wondered before if she has ASD. The diagnosis that she has received in the past has been a toss up between severe ADHD and bipolar. She will not get therapy and I doubt medications are possible because she's on a lot of other medications and I can't imagine that adding anything else would be healthy. She wouldn't consider it anyway.

She does have a lot of great interests that she pursues and I love that she does that. She has very few real connections to people, though. Sadly, I don't think she's capable of it. She hates small talk and tends to monologue about her interests.

I would love for her to move into a more social setting, like a retirement community or assisted living or something. But, she's paid off her house and loves her yard and gardening. She is where she wants to be. [/quote]

A lot of communities have senior clubs where the members meet regularly for lunches and do activities.  Maybe you could find something like that in her town for her?[/quote]

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