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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Mom moved to a CCRC near my sister a few years back. Now my sister has decided to relocate 8 states away.[b] My other sibling and I each live about 90 min (in good traffic) in opposite directions from mom. 
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Mom has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's. We have gotten her to agree to move into the main campus building, and out of her independent cottage. She's not quite ready for assisted living services, but she gets easily confused, frequently can't recall words or express her thoughts clearly (we had her evaluated a few weeks ago).

Anticipating a transition to higher levels of nursing care in the next 1-2 years, I'm becoming worried that we will not have the capability of just running up there to check on her during the week, or to even get to know the nursing staff. I've heard and read about too many negligent nursing situations that I'm becoming more uncomfortable with her staying in this place for the long haul because I have no sense of the quality of care there.  [b]My sibling and I both have kids, and cannot commit to going there every week. Once a month is probably the best I can do, and even that is going to be challenging. [/b]

Is there any way to comprehensively research the quality of nursing care in these facilities to know if there are problems? Google Reviews sound pretty good for this place in the last 2-3 years. But how can I know if the nursing staff is attentive and responsive, and not negligent or abusive? Or is that even possible if I am not there frequently?[/quote]

Was she a good mother to you?   Was she abusive or neglectful in any way?   Because if she was a terrible mother, than you don't need to read the rest of what I have to say.   I had a terrible mother too and as far as I'm concerned, terrible parents don't deserve to have their kids help them in old age.

But if she was a decent mother, than I think it's really disgusting that you can't visit more than once a month when she is only a 90 minute drive away.   [/quote]

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