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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Same situation. Don’t underestimate that 45 minute one way trip- it’s a time suck and can be grueling. My mom has been in and out of assisted and independent living in NoVa and depending upon traffic, can be over an hour in the car.

My mom loves to go to the “fancy” dining room for meals and so I plan my visits around this and meet her for lunch or dinner.

My sibling and I really encourage her to take full advantage of exercise programs, activities and services available on campus. I think once a week visits are absolutely fine. Daily check ins by phone are easy.

D[b]on’t know if you’ve sent a DC to college - but it’s similar to this situation: be supportive, be available, be encouraging but don’t get in the way of the adjustment, connection-making early days. Don’t be quick to “rescue” or transfer her out of a place or move her temporarily to your house. Follow the 30 day rule - give the new to her staff, residents, environment a full 30 days before considering any changes. [/b][/quote]

this is such good advice. Also, don't do anything like daily calls. Keep in touch, but do not allow neediness and codependency. It is best for brain health, well being and your sanity that she make friends and acclimate and that takes time and some discomfort. When you come thank the staff and see if they have any input. If you are allowed, it's nice to bring a fruit basket for the staff or at the holidays if allowed giftcards.[/quote]

Great advice. DS went to UMD and they said don’t let them come home for the first 6 weeks.[/quote]

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