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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]These all sound exactly like my DH. What is it with men and anger issues?[/quote]

Normally, it's the wife who makes the husband angry.  This example will sound stupid, but it's a perfect reflection of many issues.

Example: Why is it when a married couple driving somewhere the wife needs to give "direction" or "opinion" to the husband who's driving?  Watch that car.  Park here.  See that car?  Does the wife think if she wasn't in the car the husband wouldn't be able to drive?  Then the husband gets irritated with the feedback since he's been driving 20-30 years and probably a better driver than the wife.

If you read into these common situations, you realize the wife is the reason the husband is angry.  You don't see the husband angry when he's driving alone...[/quote]

This is funny because my husband does this to me while I drive. It’s not inherently men or women, it’s anger issues in both spouses. In your example though, the nagging shouldn’t result in an outburst. I would hope that as adults we can use our words and tell our spouse that the criticism is not helpful and please refrain from doing that. [/quote]

This is what would happen in one of my relationships except bigger put downs and I'm such a victim you don't care about me type of behavior despite trying to accommodate in some way whatever the request was that always involved me bending over backwards and then the person would keep doing it. To the point where I then got angry because my feelings and wishes were completely invalidated, and I was being treated like a distrusting person and they were asking me to do unreasonable things. I know that is an issue of mine that sometimes I shout saying back off or something when I've reached a boiling point, but some people are so anxious and passive aggressive like this that they think they can get away with it forever. Constantly be distrusting and because they just nag and put down so they feel at ease and in control or power it doesn't mean anything. At least with anger most people realize it's getting out of hand and there is a stopping point. We then stop and calm down and talk things through. With the belittling and distrusting and passive aggressive behavior there is often no end. At the end of any of these discussions would be some apology like I'm sorry if I said something that made you upset rather than having any self-realization on the actual behavior and why they were doing it.[/quote]

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