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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you have to take a hard line with him about the nurse. It isn't safe for your mom to help him to the toilet. [b]If he fell, she'd fall too, and even be fallen on top of.[/b] Get the weekend nurse back, and if your mom is unwilling to stand up to your dad then you will have to do it for her. It is simply not safe.

If someone your mom's level of frailty applied for a job doing personal care for your dad, would you hire? Or would you say no, this job requires physical strength and stability. [/quote]

THIS Op. This actually happened to my parents-Mom was helping Dad get his shoe on while standing, he fell on her and she broke her hip! And laid on the floor for 7 hours all night because her phone was across the room! And they are only in their 70's, your mom would probably not survive that. Now my mom has limited mobility, along with Dad's advanced parkinsons.

Since your mom is actually willing to look at senior places, I'd take her (on a day when the nurse is there to watch dad) and sell her on it. Really, for your dad the decision has to be made 'for' him. It's hard to think that our parents, especially our Dads, need to be 'told' what they are going to do, but you are at that point. And I'd get back the weekend nurse. What is he going to do, go for a jog when they are there? LOL.

This all being said-my folks won't take any of this advice and live one step away from disaster. Good luck.[/quote]

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