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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]These aren't reasons reasons, they are outcomes.

The title is what is interesting: lack of family support is the leading cause cited in 43% of marriages. I guess that means that the in-laws disapprove? Maybe the in-laws disapproving is less the causal factor and a sign that the partner really is bad for you. But who knows. [/quote]

I assumed the family support thing had to do with either kids or money (or both). Arguments over money and parenting are major stressors on a marriage, and they are more likely to happen if you are struggling. Having supportive family who can help with either or both of those things could thus help a marriage through those rough spots. If a young couple is struggling to save for a house and family helps with a down payment, that will boost the couple into a more stable phase of their relationship without the stress or anxiety that comes with not knowing if you'll ever have enough to buy. Similarly, the costs and stress of childcare when kids are under 5 are significant. Family that can help reduce that burden (anything from taking care of kids full time to kicking in money for daycare to just babysitting twice a month so the couple can go on a date) can ease that stressful time.

I have a successful marriage (11 years, doing great) and we did it without family support. And it was incredibly hard. I think the reason we have made it thus far is that we were older when we married, so the finance stuff wasn't as much of an issue. But having a baby with no family support at all, even when you are financially stable, is HARD. I was stunned by how difficult it was. I'm not surprised that lack of family support winds up being a factor in a lot of marital breakups, especially if you are under 30 and not settled in careers and don't have the means to outsource anything.[/quote]

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