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[quote=Anonymous]Sounds like he has a 50hr a week job, and you have a 45hr a week job?

Although practically, it doesn’t matter what DCUM thinks - if your husband isn’t going to step up, he isn’t going to.

Do you both have the same rest/off duty (childcare, household work, paid work)  time off?

I’d say lower your expectations - make dinner prep easier, get a housecleaning service, have enough underwear etc for 2 weeks.   It’ll get a little easier when your kids are older and don’t need the oversight they do now, but then activities will start.

Time shift your work if you can - a few days a week at 6:30, you catch-up on work for a few hours.

I’ve always made more than my husband and always did more around the house - including childcare - because my job has been more flexible.  But we also stopped with one kid, and I have very low standards for what constitutes meal prep - a lot of easy meals, prepared food, and takeout.  We also have a house cleaner every two weeks.

The other thing to keep in mind is your husband may not really like his job - even the less intense one, and is somewhat resentful that you are able to take on a ‘passion’ job because he’s working a job you decided you didn’t like.   Can he get a 45hr a week job that pays $100K that he loves? Will that free up more time for him to take on more household responsibility?[/quote]

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