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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So true. My parents expected nothing less than straight A's from my sister and I. Our youngest sister (who was born in '78, so not a generational thing) had the same treatment as the "today" kid in the cartoon. My parents always blamed the teacher, the school, her asthma (nm that I also have asthma), and anything else they could come up with for her bad grades and poor behavior. It's no wonder she became a stripper at 17 and is now a single mother raising 2 kids on a very meager salary (well, well below the poverty line) while burning through my aging parents' retirement money. You are doing your children no favors by not making them take responsibility for their own behavior.[/quote]

Not defending the helicopter parents at all... but your post seems so dysfunctional to me I have a hard time reading it without cringeing.  You don't think there is any possibility that perhaps the reason your sister had "bad grades," "behavior problems" and became a stripper was, not because your parents were permissive and blamed her teachers -- but perhaps because of their unreasonable expectations  (straight A's or nothing?), and an unattainable goal set by her two older sisters?  C'mon.  There is a grey area here.  You seriously sound like an entitled bitch.  There are ways to hold kids to appropriately high standards and hold them accountable for their behavior without demanding straight A's.  In fact, I think it does kids a great disservice to make them think that anything less than perfection is a failure.

Perhaps your sister because a stripper because her big sisters looked down their noses at her as somehow "less" of a human being because she was unable to get straight A's?

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A NP here!  Without realizing it, I think you have just validated the OP's cartoon and the PP's point.

The OP said that her parents never held her sister accountable and they always made excuses for her.  That is exactly what you have done - made excuses for her.

I agree that the PP's post is dripping with resentment.  But I get the sense that part of it stems from the fact that her parents did NOT hold her sister to the same standard and accountability that she and her other sister had to meet.  [/quote]

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