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I imagine i'll get flamed a bunch of different ways for this, but I guess putting it out there anyway to see if any other wives feel the same or help husbands see their situation differently (or visa versa if roles are flipped).

I'm 40 and my husband would say i've lost interest in sex. we very very very rarely have sex and I overall show little physical affection towards him. But I haven't lost interest in sex at all! I am still very into it, take care of it myself, and would be having plenty of it if I was single...what i've lost is interest in sex with him. I don't understand how he thinks i'd be attracted to him when he spend his time sitting around on his phone instead of interacting wit his family, when he's so fine watching me take care of so much of the domestic load while he hides from it even though we're supposed to be partners, when he makes a 5 minute attempt at being a "good dad" and then gets frustrated and withdraws from our kids when they don't listen to him, when he doesn't do simple things that he knows would make me more physically attracted to him, when he uses all his people energy for people at work and leaves nothing left for his personal relationships.

I'm sure i'll get the comment "well if you're not having sex with him, don't be surprised if someone looks elsewhere" and honestly that would be fine with me because it'd mean i could too. I've even hinted at an open relationship and he's shown no interest in having that convo. I've also stated the problem fairly clearly to him and he does the half asked "well i asked you about your day yesterday and cleaned up the kitchen once" like that changes years of the dynamic

We are able to get along ok enough for it to be worth it to keep an intact family for the kids and both of us would prefer that to divorcing for more fulfilling romantic lives (we both have experience with divorce and appreciate how little kids care about if their parents relationship is close and fulfilling as long as its peaceful and a calm household). But I guess as a PSA, if you think your wife had kids and closed up shop no longer having time and interest in having sex - i'd bet my money its alive and well in her imagination and the problem isn't her sex drive

also for other common comments - yes we've tried therapy, he just has very little need for any interpersonal connections and isn't interested in changing that. and no i didn't know he was like this before we got married because he wasn't like this while we were dating and once married we got on to kids quickly bc of our age
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