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[quote=Anonymous]I’m mildly on the autism spectrum. High-functioning professionally but have difficulty building and maintaining relationships. I’m in therapy, I’ve improved social skills through the years, but looking back at my life, there’s one thing I wish people could have helped me with, which is being more honest and direct with me.

Over the years, in high school, college, and in most of my 20s, I’ve had acquaintances, so-called friends, and roommates who have just kept quiet about how annoying I was to them until it hit a boiling point and then they blew up at me and gave me a laundry list of all the things that annoyed them about me. I had no idea about all the little things that bothered them until it was too late. Had I known that certain habits of mine bothered people, I would have been more mindful and tried to change them and had been more self-aware and maybe had more successful relationships elsewhere in life. It’s taken me 33 years of living and three years of expensive therapy to figure out where I’ve gone wrong in social situations.

I realize it’s not others’ responsibility to coach me in relationships, and that not everyone is entitled to friends and partners. Life isn’t always fair like that. Just putting it out there that for some non-neurotypical people like myself, honesty is the best policy. Now I’m actually overcorrecting and over-analyzing how annoying I may be to people and I constantly worry what others are thinking and not telling me behind my back. It’s an exhausting way to live. [/quote]

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