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[quote=Anonymous]Would you say anything if you feel your DD's BF is unintentionally wasting her time as he can't marry or be a full time spouse for at least 7-8 years until he finishes his masters and doctorate. Its a long time and more than likely they'll break up by then.

They do love each other and are very compatible. Their timing is off as she is done with education, working, earning and deserves someone who can be more available for moving forward in life than a perpetual student obsessed with academics.

If they do break up, its no loss to him as a man but these are precious years of her life.  If you were in her shoes, would you keep your life on pause for love? Does love only comes once. I say this as she may not say it but does understand and worry about it. However, too involved with him to think of other possibilities.

Is a man in today's world worthy of such long wait and sacrifice? Would she look back and regret a lost decade? May be they'll end up marrying but what if they don't and what if marriage isn't successful? They are both 25 and three years out of college. She is moving (remote work) with him to a college town for his intense MS-PhD program.

Just to be clear, I have nothing against him. He is a great guy, just not great timing. What would you do? Just stay out of it or at least discuss it once? We are old fashioned and so is she but blinded by loyalty.[/quote]

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