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[quote=Anonymous]Hi OP! I am in a similar situation right now and I came to the realization that the issue with my problems is me, myself and I. You can’t influence people to do things your way, as you just found out. You need to work with the situation you have at hand. Your sister is doing A LOT! She takes care of your parents in their own home. If you can’t appreciate what physical and emotional labor that is, you are the issue. You should be grateful she is doing this, according to their wishes and in accordance with how they want to live their lives at an old age. Your parents have made the decision that they want to stay in their house for as long as possible. Your mom already told you that and you refuse to accept it. You’re trying to take away their agency - they clearly accept that they might live less long, have an accident etc. and it’s worth it to them as long as they can remain in their current lifestyle. No one has forced you to take on anything. The awning is on you. The guilty feeling is on you. You need to accept that not everything has to go according to your plan. I recently learned this from my previously estranged sister and am employing this right now with my mom. I am taking a mental health break at the beach while my mom is looking for her credit card, which she lost for the 20th time. I offered help with banking issues, she refused many times. This is the consequence: I am not sacrificing my Sunday morning to call up banks or rifle through her mess.[/quote]

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