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[quote=Anonymous]OP - how old is your baby?  I tell my new mom friends that the first couple of months can be really weird/hard because new babies are just little animals, working on instinct and not really showing any appreciation.  You've turned your life upside down for them and sacrificed your body and they are just not grateful.  They take and take and take and never give back.  But then.... at around 8 weeks, that kid suddenly smiles at you and it isn't gas and then you realize he/she actually LIKES you.  That's the point when it got easier for me.

Also, let go of any expectations you have.  Motherhood is wonderful in the bigger picture, but the day-to-day picture can include a lot of scutwork and drudgework.  Especially if you've always wanted to be a mom, it's easy to build it up in your head, and then the reality doesn't really compare to the fantasy.  it's kind of like business travel.  It can seem glamourous from the outside, but when you're doing a lot of it, it's not that glamourous and it's tiring and you never really feel settled and you miss out on stuff you could be doing.

It's ok not to like breast-feeding, and it's ok if it doesn't work out.  Your baby can be well-fed and very bonded to you regardless.  And cloth diapers are a pain; disposables are a necessary short-term evil, and that's ok.

hang in there.  it does get better, though the sleep deprivation thing will continue to rear its ugly head at various times.  (teething, night terrors, potty training, etc.)[/quote]

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