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[quote=Anonymous]OP, you mentioned feeling like everything has been taken away from you. I think parenting hits some people harder than others because we each have different coping mechanisms going into it, some of which are compatible with infants, some of which aren't. For example, a lot of people can comfort themselves by ordering a pizza, getting it delivered, sitting on the couch and watching a marathon of re-runs on the TV. This is all pretty compatible with caring for an infant (at least, maybe if you keep the volume low). However, this was NOT my method of coping with life - I dealt with things by either tackling some big creative project or drinking with friends at a bar. Once that baby came, not only did I realize that it was crazy hard, but as a double whammy I couldn't do the things that I was used to doing to make myself feel better. That pesky baby kept interrupting my big all day projects, and people kept asking for his ID at the bar.

It took me a long long time before I finally accepted that I was making things harder for myself. I discovered that being pregnant with the second and chasing a toddler around was still not compatible with elaborate dinner parties from scratch and polishing off a bottle of wine. Go figure. I went to therapy in order to cope, and started trying to accept that lying on the couch and watching TV was all I could do at this period of my life. Anyway I'm reading between the lines a little bit in your post, but "adjustment" issues, as you put it, can be a HUGE factor, and you're not alone, but they do make things way harder for people like you and me.  [/quote]

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