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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know a million others have said the same thing, but just have to vent. I knew being a mom would be hard, but it's way harder than I ever expected.

It's not so much that I haven't slept since DC was born, that BFing sucks and never worked right, that I barely have time for anything... I feel like everything has been taken away from me. I know coming to grips with reality vs. ideal is part of the game, but I just feel like nothing has worked out. DC has had some medical issues, and I can't stop worrying about every little thing. That makes me feel like I can't even enjoy him. Others have this "my baby is wonderful" experience, and I just can't stop feeling there is something wrong with my DC. It feels like the ideal of a perfect child even for a short time had been taken away from me.

I wanted to BF - didn't work. I wanted to use cloth diapers - haven't more than a few times from exhaustion from other things. I feel guilty whenever I'm not paying attention to DC but sometimes really don't want to interact anymore.

You will probably say I am suffering from PPD, but I thought so and am seeing a therapist who says it's just "adjustment" issues. Not sure therapy is really helpful to me but don't want to stop. [b]I find it bard to complain about issues when they aren't immediate, and I always put on a happy face for someone new, so therapy isn't that helpful to me.[/b][/quote]

It would probably be helpful to say these words to your therapist, if you haven't already.  If s/he is any good, you can spend some time focusing on those issues and get the maximum out of your hard work in therapy.

I'm also sorry to hear of your DC's medical issues, that can make things really challenging.  Parenthood is a HUGE adjustment.  What's been helpful to me so far (just 8 months in, so I'm hardly an expert) is to try my hardest not to have expectations.  It's not easy, and something I worked hard in my own therapy on before my daughter was born.  But really, I don't know what parenting will be like--other than to expect it to be challenging--and I'll drive myself crazy trying to imagine.  Your child is the biggest variable in the equation, and so you while you can do plenty to prepare, you have little to no control over who your little person is.  Hang in there.  [/quote]

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