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[quote=Anonymous]Currently pregnant with #4 so can't say 100% for sure, but I'd say if you can afford it, then go for it! And to be clear, my definition of "afford" is perhaps also different than others... I'm of the opinion that kids primarily need love and a stable home, parents who can guide them through life, and a good public school education supplemented with a few extra curriculars here and there can absolutely grow them into very successful people. Yes, if you work you'll need daycare/nanny, but those years are short - short term pain for long term gain...

I say this because I think the rest is details - we live in an age where there's so much *stuff* marketed to parents that just isn't necessary - fancy vacations, fancy clothes, all the baby and kid gear, of which 90% isn't needed, etc. I'm assuming if you already have 3, you already have a home - really all that 4th child needs is to find their place in your heart and in your family dynamic, which will certainly happen.

For more context, I'm a working mom, kids are 5, 3 and 1 - I'm the main breadwinner and I've just forced my career around my family - I put them first and always will. Yes, there are always challenges but over the years I feel like my love for my family and wanting to provide for them has actually made me more determined to keep working and find that ideal work/life balance.

In short, no I don't think 4 is "insane" - my personal opinion is that some people limit themselves to fewer because they haven't learnt to let go a little and embrace a little chaos and uncertainty.

Whatever you decide, good luck!![/quote]

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