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[quote=Anonymous]I have 3 siblings. I'm the oldest and always the one who coordinates things for our parents' birthdays. This usually consists of me finding the gift we give them as a collective group and collecting the money from my siblings. Or me making the dinner reservation. I think this came about when I was in college, probably my freshmen year, and they all forgot my mom's birthday without me being there to remind them. So of course, being the good big sis I am, I added their names to my card and gift. The next year when I reminded them of our mom's bday, they asked if they could just chip in on whatever I picked out and I agreed, and it's continued like that since then.

I took my mom on a big trip in late May as an early bday gift to her. I have a card to give her tomorrow on her actual bday, but she knew the trip was her gift from me. I had to go for work to a country that she'd always wanted to visit, so I asked her to join me and extended my time in that location for 5 days. I gave my siblings a heads up in February when I booked things that I was taking her as my gift to her (it's also a milestone bday, age 70) so they needed to get gifts on their own. I've reminded them since.

I just talked to my mom and asked what her plans were for her bday tomorrow. She said she had no plans. She was going to the farmer's market with a friend and that was it. I texted my siblings in our sibling group chat and basically, no one planned anything. No one made reservations. No one bought a gift. No one even has a card! In fact, my youngest brother forgot about her bday since "no one told me to put anything in my calendar" and made other nonrefundable plans with friends.

Part of me wants to run out and get a gift and make the reservation but a bigger part of me wants to not do either of those things. They are 23 & 25 years old!  [/quote]

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