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[quote=Anonymous]I’ve been thinking about it a lot lately.
I didn’t want to help my parents because I didn’t agree with the way they lived (it was my mother’s ideas) and because she never ever helped me after I turned 18. 
When she died, and dad was free to live a relatively normal life, I started helping him financially (though he isn’t in debt, just lives very very modestly). 
I think it’s not fair when your parents or your adult kids struggle, and you have enough and then some, but still don’t help them. Unless the parent or the child was very unkind to you/brought you a lot of grief.
I am planning to help my kid when he grows up as much as I can. For my mother, she could have given me some token money and it would have meant the world to me. I am going to do for my child what she never did for me.
For my dad, my plan is to help him live in dignity. Food, roof over his head, clothes, medical care. He is more or less independent now but if he needs help I will help him. This is because he was generally kind to me even though he was completely under the orders of my not so kind mother.
So I think you reap what you sow, more or less. If you are kind, your relatives are kind to you (provided they are mentally stable). [/quote]

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