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[quote=Anonymous]I have a child with my boyfriend, and he pays support (supposedly at the maximum calculation for MD) to me for our child.

During part of my pregnancy, we broke up. He went to a few parties, got a little too drunk, and here comes one
of his friends claiming she's pregnant. He denies it's his, as he doesn't remember 'hooking up'. Of course, there is always
the chance. We got back together right before our child was born and I'm contacted by this friend, telling me her claim.
He didn't deny they were at a party together, and since we were split up, I can't be too angry. She bugged him for about
a month, but he had found out she was seeing other people at the same time (and immediately got tested for STDs), so
he didn't believe her claim and told her to stop contacting him.

Anyway, fast foward over a year. Her child is a year old. I find out she was still legally married at the time the child was born.
She is now divorced. I get an email from her telling me she is filing for child support against my boyfriend and that
her child deserves everything my child has and that she will make sure he pays as much as legally allowed and make sure
my child gets nothing or next to nothing and that she knows we have a support order and she will get the judge to reduce
mine since I work and she doesn't so that she gets what I get for my child. This woman is nuts. I didn't even respond, other
than asking her to stop contacting me and blocking her from contacting me further.

I spoke with an attorney before this email, because I knew this might come back up to surface, and they told us to
get a custody and support agreement in writing through the court, just in case. I was also told IF it turns out he is the father
of this child, and she takes him to court for support, the amount he pays me will be deducted from his income in determining
support paid to her.

My child is my first priority, and I understand if he has another child he will have to help support that child. However, I am
not happy that my child's support is being 'attacked' by this woman.
IF she follows through with her threat, she would have to file a paternity case, get that proved, then ask for support.
(She is currently having her ex-husband disproved as the child's father) And IF it turns out he is the father,
will a judge (different county than the one my case is filed in) order that the support paid to me be reduced to make
way for hers or will they just deduct what he pays for our child from his income and then use that amount to
figure support for her child?

This is stressing me out - the whole situation - and it is what it is, but I don't like people making idle threats and I
want to prepare myself if there is a possibility that my child's support will be affected.

Thank you (and please, don't be nasty to me about the situation, it's embarassing as it is, and my life normally does not have
any drama whatsoever, until this mess happened.) for any help or suggestions anyone may have to offer.
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