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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It has to be appropriate for the occasion.  Summer BBQ--go short, go cropped. I don't care.

Winter concert at the Kennedy Center--dress appropriately[/quote]
+1 and three thoughts:

1) and also, in conversations NOT about her, I've introduced the idea of "classy"....careful to avoid triggering defense mechanisms by comparing "classy" to "trashy" or "skanky" or anything else.  Just up-talked "classy" or stylish dressing.

My now 20 y.o. DD has always dressed on target for her age, but she always is on the classy side and I think that's partly due to me...

2) oh when my DDs were younger, I used to playfully threaten (jokingly, folks) that if they wore jean shorts with their butt hanging out, then I would too. I'd warn them that I'd pick them up from school, yelling, "YOOO-HOO! LAAAAARRRLA!  Mom's here!" in my too-short jeanshorts.  This always got a big laugh but I think it did help a bit

3) More importantly, I think it's important to teach kids WHY they are looking in the mirror, and encourage them to look in the mirror for the (mentally healthier) reasons.  Why do people look in the mirror?  Some to examine their flaws, take themselves apart.  I encouraged my DDs to look in the mirror to see that they are appropriately dressed for the occasion, and didn't miss a button, etc.  This is easier to explain when they are younger. But it's still do-able with a teen, if you are speaking in general terms as opposed to talking about them specificly.

If you think about it, mirrors are really recent in evolutionary terms, and even then, at the beginning were reserved for the elite. Clear mirrors that are accssible for everyone have been around for just the tiniest blip in human evolution.  We are just not designed for mirrors to be non-stop in our faces.  When we moved to a new place, one whole wall of each of my kids' rooms was mirrored.  I don't think that's healthy!  [/quote]

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