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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd attempt to strike a deal about it. What does she dislike about you attending?  Figure that part out.

Ex: she doesn't like you waving or cheering for her because you are CRINGE.  Agree that if you come, you will not do those things. You will be a stone statue in the back who will not let anyone in attendance know she is your daughter.  Then sulk out the door at the end without talking to her and never mention it again.[/quote]

I agree with this advice. My mom would try to round up all my friends for pictures, would sit as close as possible and wave wildly to get mine and my friends' attentions, would be videoing and taking pics the whole time, etc. I know she was just excited and being supportive, but as a young teen I was mortified and hated it when she attended. Unfortunately my mom wasn't the type of mom I could discuss this with, so I just spent a couple years being resentful and embarrassed [/quote]

You didn't get over it with age? Did you ever think your mom did this because nobody showed up for her?[/quote]

Of course I got over it. I said I was a young teen and spent a couple years being resentful and embarrassed. I don't remember the exact age but it was something like 12-14 or 13-15. And her parents were very involved in her life.  My mom just likes to be super involved but in the way she wants. If I had told her how I felt I would have gotten something along the lines of "I'm so sorry that I'm such an embarrassment.  I'm clearly a horrible mother for just trying to support you. I'll never show up to anything again.".

Regardless, my experience is not the same as OPs. But it is worth it to discuss with her daughter why she doesn't want her going. [/quote]

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