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[quote=Anonymous]Anyone else have a pretty happy, close to "ideal" childhood (no major traumas, loving parents, etc.) but go into therapy for whatever reason and uncover some stuff? Or, not in therapy but in raising your own kids, say, whoa, that was messed up!

I can't imagine I am the only one, given the state of the world, and given the fact that I was raised by parents who grew up in the 1950s. Husband and I are going through marriage counseling now and we have uncovered a few things:

-Privacy: one of us was forbidden to lock doors, the other had a mom who read journals/diary etc. and notes from girlfriends/boyfriends. Not cool, caused some issues.

-Daddy issues: my dad was never around (worked all the time) and though overall a good guy, had a major temper and though he never yelled at us or spanked us, would yell at my mom a lot, and in general storm around house. DH's dad would never just be totally proud of him, he would always have to raise the bar - if he got an A why didn't he get an A+? etc.

-I don't think my parents modeled healthy physical affection/sex life. I was taught the technical stuff, and overall got a good healthy sex education at school etc., but definitely rebelled in college a bit to prove how "unrepressed" I was only to end up in a marriage and find out I have some intimacy issues. DH too.

It is helpful to go through and do exercises and even uncover things from childhood that made me uncomfortable, etc., but it's HARD. I'm proud of myself though, cause I think a lot of people keep pushing things down. I thought if I opened up to DCUM, and got your stories, I'd feel more normal? Anyone? Anyone???

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