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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]And that can be difficult to hear. You have absolutely zero control over them from that point onwards. [/quote]

You are totally wrong, OP.

I don't have "control" over my adult children, legally, but I have a good relationship with them, and they do turn to me for advice. They count on me, and I am glad that we have that relationship where they come to me if they need help with something (not money!).

Why would you want to "control" your adult children anyway? If you've raised them right, your goal is to raise independent, thoughtful adults who can manage their own lives responsibly.

But kids don't suddenly become adults the moment they turn 18. It's a process of gradually gaining control over their lives and making decisions they are comfortable with. It's painful on both sides as that separation proceeds, but it's healthy and the right thing to do. We don't want our children to be dependent on us forever, but we do want them to see us as a resource they can tap when needed (again, not financially).

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