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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I think the best thing you can do is get to know her and find out about her family. She is starting a new family with your son, not becoming an appendage to your family (I am not assuming this is your attitude, but it is common)[/b]. [/quote]

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This is so important, such a significant point.  Been married a few decades, and my MIL and SILs know nothing about me or my family, and we have a rich immigrant background (first generation). Obviously, it is more a statement about them than me.

A few things they taught me, inadvertently: Be warm, open, accepting and not judgmental - if the new member of the family is different, it is NOT a personal affront on you, learn to love their differences, not take the differences personally. Be fun, funny, and open to new perspectives and remember what we teach our kids: how boring would it be if everyone were alike. Embrace their perspectives and their familial background, as most people do not grow up similarly - and that is a GOOD thing! Don't be a narcissist.[/quote]

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