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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What is your relationship now with your adopted family, siblings, parents when they were alive or if they are still alive, and extended cousins,  etc.?

As you are older now,  how have you framed (or reframed, most likely) your life experience? [/quote]

I was born in the early 80's and adopted. I'm still very close with my family (why wouldn't I be?). I don't understand your second question. [/quote]

OP here. I wasn't the  eye roll poster. 
What I was referring to is the broad coverage and community that has developed in the last decade basically uncovering the social paradigm around adoption- that it was for the best, that it was for everyone's own good,  that mothers couldn't care for their children, that adoptees were  "chosen," when, in fact, it was an entire sociological swath of patriarchal , societal and religious baby trafficking. Unwed mothers, young or old,  couldn't keep their babies due to societal norms, young mothers were kept in maternity homes,  often medicated,  and forced to give up children, private adoptions were  for cash, overseas and domestic adoptions lined the pockets of doctors and lawyers, and the overarching theme of white middle class married couples  "winning" babies.  Additionally,  adopted children lost all rights and information to their identity,  who their parents were, and their genetic and medical  history, with no recourse. 
All the adults had the rights,  but the children were stripped of rights.Children in transracial adoptions were whitewashed to fit it, without the embracing of their culture. The  adoption community calls it "coming out of the fog." Besides a lot of recent community development over this,  there's been a lot of writing, including a recent article published this week:

https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2023/04/10/living-in-adoptions-emotional-aftermath
Also-
Adoption Used to Be Hush-Hush. This Book Amplifies the Human Toll. https://nyti.ms/2Y5DD0s
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It was clear you were trying to start drama.[/quote]

? This is actually a pretty academic discussion of a relevant topic  getting a lot of press recently. (Colin  Kaepernick's comment, for example, a New Yorker article)  There's literally no drama here. [/quote]

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