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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband and I are expecting our first child this fall. I adore my husband, and I think our relationship is strong. While I'd love to think this will continue with the arrival of the baby, I've seen enough of my friends struggle through the first year of child-rearing with their spouses - not for lack of love - but simply as a result of exhaustion, frustration, and shock to the system. What are your tips of making it through the beginning of parenthood so that we still like each other next year?
Thanks.[/quote]

1) Baby sleeps in own bed. No co-sleeping.
2) Date nights.
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We have friends who stuck to these rules, but they have the most drama-laden marriage of anyone I know. So, basically, you have to figure out what works for you and for DH. As for "universal" rules, I think that you both should prepare for the worst (sick, colicky, poor sleeper, rough delivery, financial strain, etc.) and hope for the best (easy delivery, easy baby, no extraneous stress). You should both accept that your lives are going to change forever. You should both accept now that the first couple of years are going to be tough--it is for just about everyone, even if people don't want to admit it. You and DH need to accept that when your baby is young, your baby comes first--s/he needs you to survive and thrive--but that it will get better. You have to decide--but realize that things may change--on how involved you want DH to be as a partner from the beginning (see the thread about what's fair when baby is a newborn). Some couples are happy having mom do everything for the baby 24-7, whereas others want a more equal parenting relationship. Most of all, you need to be able to go with the flow. Things change, so you adapt. [/quote]

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