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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1.  Try and have a date on a regular basis (even if just lunch while your child is at daycare and TRY to talk about yourselves and not your child (ren)).

2.  Take turns sleeping/resting etc.  If you both are tired then you will be cranky.  If one of you is tired the other can carry the burden a bit better.

3.  Divide chores and responsiblities. (someone cooks, someone does laundry, one picks up, the other drops off, etc).  That way there is no resentment and you are both apart of it.
4.  Find someone you trust to care for your child so you can go to events together and go to events together.
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+1 to all of these. Also, leave your husband with the baby early and often! Okay, I don't mean just disappear---but get him comfortable being the primary caregiver for short stints so that if you have an evening out or a long work day or what-have-you, he doesn't feel like he's babysitting. He will be flummoxed by it in the early weeks and want to know how he should do something, when, why, etc., but it is totally normal and really key for him to figure out his own approach to parenting so that he feels like an equal, and you don't default to "mom takes care of baby except..." I found that hugely valuable both for myself (I could have an evening out with friends, etc.) and also for my husband's relationship with our son. (They have their own ways of doing things and while I might occasionally raise an eyebrow, I keep my mouth shut and accept that there are some things I just can't match Dad at!)

We also take turns at nights out with friends (in addition to nights when we all go---though our baby is seven months old now so those are getting fewer and fewer!) which helps, too. And we always, always ask the other before making plans like that.

Congrats, and good luck!  [/quote]

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