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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He's generally pretty good, but lately... Holy crap.

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He's in University full time  and works part time. His education is covered by RESPs.  He works to pay for his vehicle, phone, and other personal expenses.  Our agreement is that as long as the kids are in school, they live here rent free. Ds is stable and consistent.   Same part time job for 6 years, and the same girlfriend for almost as long.

Lately he has been downright surly.  If I ask him anything I get a short, impatient response.  If I tell him anything I get "mmmhmm ".  This morning it was about an app I use.  He thinks it's "shady" and would never trust it.    That went on for a few minutes, how he'll wait to be forced to use it and on and on.

Later I asked him about needing new shoes for work in a while.  He said "It doesn't matter I can't afford it."  I said "ok well if you NEED them, let me know."  I got a disgusted sound and very pissy " Can  we just leave it at I can't afford it!"

I'm DONE having my head ripped off over simple things.  He's busy, it's stressful.  Welcome to life.  He complains now?  Try being a single mom with a chronically sick kid.  That was my life at his age.  His dad works full time with a side job that makes for very long days and no free time for weeks.  Neither one will be home until 9 pm.  Being busy and stressed is not exclusive to being in your 20's, living for free in your parents house.  At this rate He better not ever have kids.

Phew.  OK.  I think I'm done ranting.  I know I've got it pretty good with him.  His older brother was a nightmare at this age.[/quote]

He's probably right about the app.[/quote]

No he isn't.  It's a banking app.  It's been fine since before he had his own bank account.

To those commenting about my "nagging" with one question about shoes, I asked because I care.  He's been complaining about his feet.

If one simple question constitutes nagging he needs to move out so nobody bothers him by speaking to him.

I need to get out of this mood today.  Tomorrow though, I will clear out of the main area when I hear his shower.  And I'll stop trying to make big batch suppers so he has leftovers to take.  Something he expects, but oh well.  Make sandwiches.  Next time his vehicle quits I won't rearrange things so he can use mine.  There's a bus stop close by.  Two weeks ago I was told (yes, told) that I would need to take him to school if I couldn't move an appointment.

But God forbid I ask about a pair of shoes.[/quote]

This is actually what you probably do - or similar - don't be so available/accommodating.

At this age, he should should also have his own bank account completely separate from yours.[/quote]

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