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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Stop catering to her adhd, as that’s what you’re doing. You allow her to sleep in. You allow her toys at the table. You allow her to get up from the table. You excuse your constant reminders to eat because teachers aren’t doing their job ID implementing services at lunch (or you just didn’t get those lunch services written into the IEP yet), you make her special foods that she doesn’t eat because oh dear she’s picky and wouldn’t eat otherwise, you allow skin picking rather than finding a way to redirect and insist she must Bm at a certain time, you allow her to have toys during morning routine and in the car.

You have to stop catering to her needs and blaming her bad behavior and your lack of parenting on the adhd. Put a schedule in place for the morning and follow it, no excuses. If she doesn’t get out of bed pick her up and carry her to the bathroom. If she gets up from the table breakfast it’s finished and you move to the next step in the routine. Practice the routine, do it the same way every single time. Do not lose patience, do not even speak to give instructions use gestures or pictures, etc.

And get some parent training because at this rate she’s going to be running your household by age 10.

You are the parents, she’s the child. Act like it.[/quote]

Telling a child (or anyone) with ADHD to shut up and try harder is not helpful. It also belies a complete misunderstanding of ADHD. I do agree that the adults need to take more responsibility for the situation. Blaming a child who is struggling as if they are being willfully defiant and assuming the child will magically acquire the skills needed to comply if the parent is strict enough is so wrong and so damaging. [/quote]

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