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[quote=Anonymous]I would find a service that provides everything-aides when needed, drivers, etc. There are elder care services like this. Vet them first. If they are anti-assisted living run! It's helpful when the parent is independent, but may have emergency when you cannot be there. Eventually they really need to be a facility and the last thing you know is a place that uses scare tactics so you keep using their people. They contract with all sorts of services, but when you need them daily, there are no shows and endless problems. If you just need someone to check in on dad and make sure he is OK, drive him now and then, provide an aide when he is healing from surgery, etc this is ideal.

It will also help prevent fighting and estrangements. If he stays healthy and independent until the day he dies you are so lucky. The more emergencies, surgeries, decline, etc that require siblings coordinating over many years the more chance of the family imploding. If you have a service that can be there if you have your own obligation and Sally won't do it for whatever reason and John's wife is ill then you know dad is cared for and you make it there to visit when you can. You can enjoy visits more when there is a trained professional to deal with the other stuff.[/quote]

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