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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What is your role in their life?

If you are their adult child left to pick up the pieces and they do not acknowledge their own role in their situation or the burden it places on you, it is okay to feel resentful.

Anything else, mind your own business and let it go.[/quote]

Accurate. If it impacts you directly and their negligence has made something that would have been hard no matter what much more difficult.

But if it's just a person you know, it should honestly be easy to empathize. There are many reasons people avoid the doctor or avoid regular screenings and checkups. I think one thing that happens often is that people are afraid of getting bad news, so they avoid it, and then they worry about both getting bad news AND getting yelled at for waiting so long, and thus being to blame for whatever might be wrong. Also some people are simply not raised to go to the doctor or rely on the healthcare system -- it becomes a generational thing that is hard to break out of, especially if linked to poor finances.

Look, it's childish to do this but also -- people are childish in many ways, all the time. No one is perfect, and it's very likely there are aspects of your personality that are immature or underdeveloped, too. Having compassion for others is also a way of having compassion for yourself, because it's a reminder to yourself that even if you screw up, you are still a worthwhile human. When people are very judgmental, it's often a sign that they are convinced that if they were the one to mess up, there would be no forgiveness.[/quote]

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