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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think I have mixed feelings about this. My daughter was on the receiving end of a very public valentines request and she say no- because she wasn’t interested. She was kind and polite but it was a firm not interested. The boy was not autistic but I guess he is now being a big jerk behind her back. I don’t like the public one-sided displayed because they seem full of pressure. My daughter has never really spoken to this boy and his friends were pushing him along and then got really mean when she did not return the interest.[/quote]

Yeah, this isn't an uplifting story to me.

That poor girl.  To have the entire cafeteria shame you for saying no to a boy?  And then it goes viral?"  That's really undeserved.  Not respecting girls' right to say no to unwanted advances is never OK.
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I agree on some abstract level and if the boys projecting their amor clumsily are neurotypical and can read social cues. This teen is on the ASD and didn’t realize how awkward and inappropriate that he was being. The mother was horrified when she found out and did not blame the girl at all.

There was no mention that the girl was shamed but just that others stepped in to make him feel loved and included in the school community. There is so much bullying online and in person in schools that they youth who went out of their comfort zones to show inclusivity are admirable to me.

I totally agree with you though that youth not accepting rejection or the end of previous affections gracefully is not OK. There is a tsunami of revenge porn out there and it makes my blood boil …

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