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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The demographic reality of LBGTQ families with kids is that they are more likely to live in low cost of living red states, more likely to be low income, and have a lower median family income than US families with kids as a whole. I know many LGBTQ migrant families, but I know even more who are looking for cheap/liberal/good schools-and that is a unicorn (I know I only have two where I live). So if you are a queer family with kids living on 50k in Alabama, what are the good options. And, LGBTQ families are more likely to have foster kids-I have a good friend who wanted to move out of TX with her family but she had a longterm foster child who she would have been forced to leave behind.

Here's the research that backs up what I wrote above: https://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/publications/lgbt-parenting-us/[/quote]

I think the other challenge is that when you're not made of money, the cost of a lawyer to sort out a sperm donor contract or a lawyer to organize a second parent adoption is so much.  It's daunting especially with all the other baby expenses and no one wants to think it's necessary when you have a newborn.[/quote]

Yeah, the moms may have not had or wanted to spend money on a 2nd parent adoption after the baby was born. Ours cost 2k and that was in a state where it was pretty straightforward and no home study was required.

To the pp: the two women were married when the baby was born, were both on the birth cert, and raised the child together for several years. The donor identified himself (on his blog) as a "know (gay) sperm donor." [/quote]

They had $2k. They were saavy about the law and deliberately chose not to file it. The law exists for a reason! If you chose not to do the available paperwork demonstrating you are the parent, then the court may reasonably assume that you did not intend to be the parent. I think implicit in the judges decision is that the decision not to adopt indicated that Williams actually was not intending to be the parent b[/quote]

How do you know that? And, how does being present for a chid's birth, signing the birth certificate, and raising the child for several years until the child was withheld by the other parent indicate not intending to parent. There are so many queer families throughout the US who don't pursue 2nd parent adoption because of money, laziness, lack of executive function, thinking they will never need the paperwork, believing that it's wrong for them to have to adopt their own child.[/quote]

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