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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Very important lesson I learned from a rehabilitation hospital when I first became a care giver at age 14: it is unhealthy for the patient to have to say "thank you" for every dang thing they need on a minute to minute basis. It literally shortens their life expectancy.

It is also unhealthy for a caregiver, especially a family member, to expect constant and consistent thanks. The amount of "doing for" is so great that no human could keep up with the 'thank yous' needed, and so the amount of disappointment and resentment you will build from expecting the unreasonable is terribly bad for your mental health.

You have a new normal in your household. If the time and physical burden is too much for you, get help. That is essential for all involved (my neighbor highly recommends senior centers for daily activity -- aka senior day care). But if the burden you are expressing is one of ego (needing thanks and recognition), for that you can and must change your attitude about what is actually going on in your new normal.[/quote]

Doesn’t sound like they want a thank you for every little thing [/quote]

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