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[quote=Anonymous]Man I wish there was an instruction manual for when parents start to age and experience progressive cognitive decline.  My mom was the one who had a horrible reaction to the anesthesia during her knee surgery.  Her short term memory is still shot but she’s (mostly) happy and is working so hard to try to find tools and tricks to help her maintain her independence.  She’s still able to feed, dress and bathe herself and remembers to take her meds (we have alarms in place to help).  But the day to day itself is starting to get hard for her and I need to make a decision on the next steps.  She has started forgetting basic things like how to turn on a TV and change the channel or even how to use her cell phone to make calls (she just tells me these things are broken but in reality she just doesn’t recall how they work).  It’s minute to minute and sometimes she’s successful but it’s apparent she could benefit from extra assistance that she can’t get in independent living.

But I don’t know whether to look for assisted living or memory care.  She’s aware of everything still and just needs reminders at this point, but she’s been declining so fast since the surgery that I do feel that it’s just a matter of time before she will definitely need memory care.  But I don’t think she needs it quite yet.  I’d hate to have to move her (to assisted living) and then move her again (to memory care) but I think if I put her in memory care tomorrow that would be the end of her.  And I think she has some time left.

I just don’t know what to do at this point.  Has anyone been there, done that or have any other suggestions?  This is harder than parenting a child.[/quote]

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