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[quote=Anonymous]My mom lives many states away and the drug which stabilized her vision and let her drive and live alone in a big house with a big yard no longer works. Over the past 2-3 months she has gone from fine to not able to write, read, barely watch TV, and definitely not drive. She’s in a suburb with no walkable access to errands and has relied on lyfts.

The decline in vision was rapid and the fact that there were any vision issues at all were kept secret from me until this week. She cannot fly per her doctor because that would exacerbate the current decline; it may be a possibility in the future if it stabilizes or gets so bad that it cannot improve.

So…my life is here a 3 days’ drive from her. She does not want to move, even locally to independent or assisted living. I know in my heart that she believes I will relocate my family and come live in her neighborhood. However, I will not and cannot do that. I’ve said so repeatedly but she truly believes I am going to go back because I should feel it’s my duty.

I don’t need advice on the “I’m not moving back to help you” conversation, but I do need stories about what on earth people do in this situation. I can’t just let a vision-impaired person live alone with few friends (they are acquaintances and she has kept this secret from them from what I gather) and no family (all are dead or relocated) nearby, I can’t fly her out here to live near us, and I don’t know what to do next. I have a in-person job and small children so moving there for 2-3 months to sort things is not a possibility. My dad is long gone and my sibling lives abroad. I’m scared.[/quote]

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