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[quote=Anonymous]My elderly mom (72) is emotionally abusive and has been all my life. She has been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder and with bipolar tendencies (although she is not on any mood stabilizers). It's a continuous cycle of her hurting me, sometimes being sorry but mostly just expecting me to get over whatever toxicity she has spewed my way, and denying she ever did anything wrong. Every couple of months she blows up at me with the craziest, most stressful tantrums.  I have gotten therapy and the advice is to just "treat her like an unreasonable patient" that I may encounter at work (I'm in healthcare) b/c she won't change, to distance myself and not take things personally. It gives me so much anxiety to even think about calling her or visiting her. A part of me wants her out of my life completely. Just decreasing contact won't work. I have tried it in the past and she just works her way back in by apologizing and giving me a guilt-trip. I need to make a stronger break. 
The issue is, I love my mom ( even though I think she is a horrible person and I resent her for so many reasons) and don't want to hurt her--so I'm worried that I won't be able to follow through. But I feel like I need to for my own well-being

Has anyone "divorced" a parent who can give me advice on how to go about this, regrets they may have had, what they might have done differently, what to expect, etc?[/quote]

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