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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do not like my sister. She’s not a nice person to me. Another sibling pointed out she’s been envious of me my whole life. I really don’t know the reasons why, I really do not care to know but if I had to guess, it’s because she’s a very insecure person. Besides her career, her life’s choices were not the best, and she compares her life to mine. The reason why I have not shut her completely out of my life is because a parent is still alive and my siblings and I care for them, and my children enjoy visiting my sister. She also hosts family gatherings like this past thanksgiving. I would like to never speak to, see, or hear from ever again one on one. I do not reach out to her or inquire about her to anyone. She’ll call or text me non stop until I get around to replying to her texts or answering her call and I keep the conversation short and to the point. The communication about parent care is in a siblings group chat. This has been going on for the last two plus years, it seems like she doesn’t want to accept the obvious and leave me alone. I am not interested in her, I wish her well but do not care to hear about the details of her life. I do not want drama and have a get out of my life conversation. I can tolerate seeing her during family or holiday gatherings a few times a year. I minimize my interactions with her on those occasions and, as discretely as possible, leave the room and join another person or group of people to talk to when she enters the room I am in. The only light I see at the end of this tunnel is when my children are older and no longer want to invite her to their social gatherings such as birthday parties, and when my parent passes away. I’m really hoping DCUM can tell me there’s another way to fade her out of my life in a drama free way in the meantime.[/quote]

OP, seems like this boils down to:

1. There is a person in your life that you do not like to interact with.
2. You have to interact with her because of mutual relationships including taking care of your mother and your kids enjoy being around her.
3.  You already do everything you can to minimize the 1:1 communication by only interacting when you have to over phone/text and removing yourself from situations that would require in-person conversation.

Bottom line here, there is nothing left to do.  You did it.  All you can do is work on what is happening in your own head and how much time you spend thinking about her and letting her bother you. [/quote]

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