Anonymous wrote:I guess I don’t understand how her life choices are affecting you or what she’s doing (besides existing) that bothers you so much.

And your other sibling is a pot-stirrer. Does this sister not envy the other family members, only you? How come everyone else is able to deal with her?

Anonymous wrote:OP I have cut my brother out.
He is a criminal narcissist.
Never looked back, my life and my family are way better off without him.

For my mother, it took me til I was 55 approximately again best thing I ever did.

My mother was of the philosophy never cut anyone out child abusers, scammers, grifters, basic run-of-the-mill criminals. Should of cut her off when I left home at 17 shame on me keeping her in my life.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. All good comments. I appreciate them. I think she thought I went MIA to the family and was surprised to find out at TG I only haven’t reached out to her, siblings, cousins, aunts and uncles I have all spoken to. She calls to see how my family and I are doing. How are you? I’m fine. How’s your DH? He’s fine. How are the kids? They’re fine. And I’ll ask about her kids but then I’ve got to go. That’s the convo. We used to have longer conversations and chit chat. I think I’m now feeling this way because I just saw her at TG. It’s been over a year since the last time. It was a good past year.

Anonymous wrote:I do not like my sister. She’s not a nice person to me. Another sibling pointed out she’s been envious of me my whole life. I really don’t know the reasons why, I really do not care to know but if I had to guess, it’s because she’s a very insecure person. Besides her career, her life’s choices were not the best, and she compares her life to mine. The reason why I have not shut her completely out of my life is because a parent is still alive and my siblings and I care for them, and my children enjoy visiting my sister. She also hosts family gatherings like this past thanksgiving. I would like to never speak to, see, or hear from ever again one on one. I do not reach out to her or inquire about her to anyone. She’ll call or text me non stop until I get around to replying to her texts or answering her call and I keep the conversation short and to the point. The communication about parent care is in a siblings group chat. This has been going on for the last two plus years, it seems like she doesn’t want to accept the obvious and leave me alone. I am not interested in her, I wish her well but do not care to hear about the details of her life. I do not want drama and have a get out of my life conversation. I can tolerate seeing her during family or holiday gatherings a few times a year. I minimize my interactions with her on those occasions and, as discretely as possible, leave the room and join another person or group of people to talk to when she enters the room I am in. The only light I see at the end of this tunnel is when my children are older and no longer want to invite her to their social gatherings such as birthday parties, and when my parent passes away. I’m really hoping DCUM can tell me there’s another way to fade her out of my life in a drama free way in the meantime.

Anonymous wrote:I do not like my sister. She’s not a nice person to me. Another sibling pointed out she’s been envious of me my whole life. I really don’t know the reasons why, I really do not care to know but if I had to guess, it’s because she’s a very insecure person. Besides her career, her life’s choices were not the best, and she compares her life to mine. The reason why I have not shut her completely out of my life is because a parent is still alive and my siblings and I care for them, and my children enjoy visiting my sister. She also hosts family gatherings like this past thanksgiving. I would like to never speak to, see, or hear from ever again one on one. I do not reach out to her or inquire about her to anyone. She’ll call or text me non stop until I get around to replying to her texts or answering her call and I keep the conversation short and to the point. The communication about parent care is in a siblings group chat. This has been going on for the last two plus years, it seems like she doesn’t want to accept the obvious and leave me alone. I am not interested in her, I wish her well but do not care to hear about the details of her life. I do not want drama and have a get out of my life conversation. I can tolerate seeing her during family or holiday gatherings a few times a year. I minimize my interactions with her on those occasions and, as discretely as possible, leave the room and join another person or group of people to talk to when she enters the room I am in. The only light I see at the end of this tunnel is when my children are older and no longer want to invite her to their social gatherings such as birthday parties, and when my parent passes away. I’m really hoping DCUM can tell me there’s another way to fade her out of my life in a drama free way in the meantime.

Anonymous wrote:No, there is no way to fade your *sister* out in a drama free way if she is still interested in talking to you. Sounds like she hasn’t noticed anything.