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[quote=Anonymous]I'm 30 years old and six months go, I got a new job that I had to move across the country for. I made it clear to my parents that they should feel under no obligation to visit me, especially since I live in a one-bedroom apartment that doesn't have enough room for more than one person. However, they have insisted on taking time off work to visit me once a month since I moved. I wouldn't mind this, except that they tend to order me around in my own apartment.

Now I won't lie; my apartment is a total pig-sty. Organization and cleanliness are not, and have never been, my strong point. But the way I look at it as that as long as my lack of organizational skills don't hurt anyone else, there should be nothing wrong. I always make sure I look good and smell nice before going into work, but as far I'm concerned, I have the right to be a total slob in my apartment. My parents think otherwise. Every time they visit(again, on their own insistence), they order me to clean and straighten up my own place. Now when I was living under my parents' roof, I always made sure to keep things clean, because it was [i]their[/i] house and I had to respect the way they wanted it. However, my parents don't seem to respect the fact the I don't mind my apartment being a mess. They also strong-arm me to make doctor's appointments for minor body problems that I really don't mind having, again, in my own place. Ever heard the phrase "my body, my choice"?

It would be pretty low of me to cut them out of my life after all they've sacrificed for me, but I'm at my wit's end. I [i]am[/i] grateful for all they've done for me, and I [i]would[/i] be willing to repay them in any way that would directly benefit them. I've even offered to send them an allowance, which they always turn down. But my personal living preferences don't concern them in any way.[/quote]

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