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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly, I used to be like you, but then my therapist told me to play with my kids and enjoy them. Oldest is now 12 and I can see him slipping away. Let them play. You can clean later. [/quote]

I, too, have talked to my therapist about this. To me, clutter is like a loud noise. It is sensory overload and causes me to shut down. But the more we talked about it, the more I realized I was worried people would judge me or think I was a bad mom or that I didn't have it together (and the "helpful" posts of "you just tell your kids they can't move on until the mess is clean and 123 that is what happens" did nothing to help me). I also grew up in a house that outwardly had no signs of kids living there. No kid art. No toys out. No fun spaces. And it sucked.

For me, I talked to my girls about how cleaning up helps the house and helps me and that helped them be invested. We do a before nap clean up and a before bed clean up. The middle is messy but fun and joyful, so that is what matters.

And if someone stopped by unannounced and saw my mess - well, I have three active and engaged kids and they have fun. [/quote]

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