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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Have you openly discussed this?

My parents were probably like this. It would've been fine if my mother wasn't so passive aggressive. But the fact that she was set a bad example and made me on edge.

I think many couples are private with their affection so that's not the issue. Can you both be really kind to each other? Is there still affection? Can you open up the relationship? It's normal for strong feelings to fade, but if you get along fine then you can probably salvage your relationship and build a deeper connection, sexual or not.[/quote]

There is no affection between us, but we are generally cordial to one another and very affectionate with DC (almost to the point of overcompensating, which probably isn't great either). H has a tendency to patronize when he speaks to me, and I am guilty of nagging him at times. We have not explicitly discussed opening the relationship, but I [b]presume H is sleeping with other people[/b] since we are not sleeping with one another. As with many primary caregivers of young children, [b]my libido has been practically nonexistent for several years[/b]. Even if and when it returns, however, I am not attracted to H, so do not begrudge extramarital activities as long as they do not negatively impact DC (e.g. by taking time away from family commitments, etc.).[/quote]
OP, I would seek out a lover. My guess is your libido isn't dead. You have just been married too long. You can spark it and you can bring it back home if you really want to. Be honest with yourself about how hard you've been working at your marriage. [/quote]

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