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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am so sorry. That sounds like a nightmare.

Hopefully, as she matures, she will have a less distorted perspective.

It sounds like you and your husband were good parents. I hope that you can find some peace and enjoyment in the lives you now share.

Hugs, from another mom, who is unappreciated and criticized by a daughter who I devoted myself to with unconditional love.[/quote]

OP here. I'm so sorry for you too.  We definitely were far from perfect parents. We made our mistakes but we always tried the best and lived our children

Your daughter, is your situation similar to mine? Is she older or younger? What is her narrative and what happened?  These things, there is a sense of shame, and I am not very open with people about this.  It is interesting and comforting to know we are not alone, even if it is a random message board stranger who I will never actually know.  [/quote]

Thank you. Our situations are not the same, but I can imagine that if and when she begins therapy, they will hear a distorted view because she already weights my flaws ten times more heavily than my strengths as a parent. For example, I can praise her about four qualities. If later I question whether she could do something better, she says all I do is criticize her. It is as if she expects a parent who is all praise and no advice (which she perceives as nagging). I don't think that is realistic given the nature of our relationship, our difference in ages, the fact that she is only now learning how to adult, etc. 
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