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[quote=Anonymous]Dear parents,

Many of your kids are out of control. They don't listen to adults at school, they are physically aggressive, they have no respect for property. Yes some of your kids are delightful. But every teacher who has spent any significant time in elementary schools are saying this is the worst year ever in terms of behavior. I know we like to blame the pandemic, but enough time has passed with them back in school that I don't think we can keep blaming that for such a huge level of disrespect.

Yes I know your instinct is to blame teachers, but I can't tell you how hard they are working. I know you don't believe it, but I see it every day.

Here are some things to consider when you are parenting at home and saying "I have to choose my battles"

--when you don't make your children sit at the table for a meal, let them get up at restaurants, or pacify them with screens--you're not teaching them to be able to sit at a cafeteria table for 25 minutes and eat their meal with focus. When there's 100-200 kids in there at a time, this becomes a huge problem. 
--when you carry their jacket for them or pick up their trash when they've dropped it, you're not teaching them to take care of the environment around them or take responsibility for their belongings.
--when you let them interrupt you and you allow them to dominate conversations, you're not helping them to learn how to hold their comments in class until it's time to comment, or not interrupt when a book is being read to them. 
--if they make a big mess and you take a photo of it to post on social media, you are teaching them that it's funny
--if a teacher lets you know that your kid made a poor choice, don't just let it go.

Work with your children to problem solve without being aggressive. Talk about feelings at home, but don't allow their feelings to completely excuse poor choices. Give them chores. Hold them responsible for their actions. Set boundaries and don't be afraid to enforce them. Be consistent. Positive parenting has its place, but if you see a behavior is not going away, consider other options. Yes I know it's harder to do these things and yes I know you're tired, we all are., The kids I see with the most egregious behavior problems need the most support and love. But it's exhausting giving that to them when they're constantly hurting others and trashing the school.

I hope I don't get crucified for this post, but if I do I can take it. It takes working as a team to get these kids educated and safely to leave your home as an adult. Let's do this together. Please don't take this in defense, but in the possibility that doing these things you can help your child succeed at school and in the real world. [/quote]

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