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[quote=Anonymous]I love my mom, but after just a few days together, I feel like you do, OP. She doesn't hear herself, and the stream of talking and subtle criticisms inartfully veiled as off-hand comments is incessant, so there is no real way for even the most calm and rational person to process it all without going over the edge eventually. A PP is right that the only way to survive this is to have a massive mental shift of your own and not think of him as your dad the way you used to. He's an elderly man living in a new and strange environment, and he's scared. If you can focus on that and realize even though he's talking to you and about you, his fears are not about you at all, it becomes more manageable. Sounds weird, but have you ever noticed how you can handle other people's elderly parents' micro aggressions better? You see them for the stage of life they are in; but with your own parents, your relationship tends to get stuck somewhere right after the teenage years.[/quote]
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