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[quote=Anonymous]He's been with us about 2 months and lives in our in-law suite. I have asked him repeatedly not to do certain things, which I know comes from worry, but take a pill! He gives me grief when I walk the dog at night (it's a German Shepherd, for God's sake), if I do laundry past a certain hour ("what if you fall down the stairs because you are tired), if I don't eat "enough" (eat another 1/2 sandwich while I sit here or I'm not going to eat either), if I have to run an errand after sundown ("what if you have a flat?"), if I want to go to the doctor's ("you can't go alone, let me go with you") and the list goes on and on and on.

At first I tolerated it, but I asked him to please let me do the things I need to do and try not to worry, I have been doing them years like this and I am 52! I always have my phone with me and check in with him to make him feel better, and sometimes even talk to him while I am out with the dog so he knows no one snatched me while walking around the well-lit block with 20 other people walking their dogs, most of whom I know.

Well, tonight he literally told me about 15 things in a row to do or not do, and I just snapped. I yelled at him to please stop, I asked him before, and that it's making me insane and I can't stand it anymore.

He got really angry and took his plate downstairs and ate in his suite by himself and refused to come back upstairs yelling, "now the truth comes out, I knew you didn't want me here."

We built the in-law suite just for him. Arranged our lives to accommodate his. We would all get along better if he just let me live my life the way I want. I suggested therapy and he literally laughed in my face, "now you want to send me to the funny farm? You want them to say I should go into an institution because you want rid of me."

At this point I do want rid of him, but not because of the extra work, cost, any of that. He just makes it so  unpleasant. And if he isn't picking on me, he is complaining about something. The towels aren't right. The TV's too small. The neighbor's dog looked at him the wrong way. The cabinets in the house at cheap. We overpaid for the house. It is a never-ending stream of negativity.

I feel guilty but right now I am far more angry, frustrated, and annoyed than anything else.

WWYD?[/quote]

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