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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I told her I'm sorry my kids didn't turn out right, and that I screwed them up into something that doesn't make her depression go away, and makes it worse. [/quote]

Please don't buy into this. Your kids sound fine. Not all kids are extroverted and chatty, and not all kids want hugs, especially from people who are critical of them, like your mother.

If my mom was blaming me for not teaching my kids right, or my kids for not being friendly enough to her, I'd make it clear that I was not going to entertain that sort of criticism, and that if she continues, I would leave. Every time. Your mom may or may not be able to change her mindset and behavior to become an involved grandmother, but it's crystal clear to me that the onus is on her. Not you. And especially not your kids![/quote]

The thing is, I think she wants to change, but I don't think she knows how.  Or maybe that's just me projecting again.  Like, I suggested that maybe she take the kids on one of her forest walks, because they like doing that.  And she said that it never occurred to her.  I feel like she has no idea how to just spend time with a child.  She only knows how to cook for them, divert them from danger, correct them, or punish them.[/quote]

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