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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How does the state of my house affect you in any way. [/quote]
The state of your house or any one house doesn’t affect anyone. However, the rise in expectations of how people should live, which for some reason is primarily related to what women shoukd be doing, is terrible and it affects all of us. Somehow we are expected to maintain perfect homes, spend hours every day curating our children’s lives to perfection, while holding down meaningful jobs and making sure our families are eating healthy meals…it’s not a realistic goal. And of course some of us can buck those expectations and still feel good about ourselves, but humans are social creatures and it’s really hard to not care what what other people think because we are innately wired and socialized to care. Too many of us don’t succeed the way it seems like everyone else is and end up feeling insecure or lonely or as if they are failures.the worst part is how hard women are on each other; you can see so much of that on this board. It’s sad, really.[/quote]

You are projecting a lot of your own stuff onto other people.  98% of the time my house is the spotless, “perfect” home you’re talking about.  It’s not because I’m trying to create a showpiece for others, it’s because I have ADHD and cannot function when mess and clutter builds up because it’s too distracting.  I have checklists I go through for each room each day to get it back in order so I don’t get too distracted and off task.  It’s much easier for me to not lose my keys when I put them down on h e kitchen table instead of putting them back in my purse if the kitchen table isn’t a sea of other crap.

As for the aesthetic of my home, I find that having my house look really polished/finished in the design makes it easier for me to maintain from a mess/clutter standpoint because I don’t want to mess up such a beautiful space.   So where you see ego and image obsession, I see a recognition of who I am and what it takes to successfully manage my medical condition. But thanks for the judgment![/quote]

Your responding to my comment and I'm not OP. I didn't say anything about ego or image obsession and I don't judge you one way or the other. Sorry you read that in my post; it wasn't intended that way. Also, I was speaking in generalities and not about any one person in particular.[/quote]

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