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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The best thing you can do is proactively make life easier/less stressful for your husband. Step up and help. Take things off his plate. Don’t ask him to do anything. Let him focus on his parents, and try to help. Don’t judge. Don’t criticize.

He probably would feel like he doesn’t have the luxury of time to find a therapist and actually sit down to talk. [/quote]

Noooo. I have lived this and gotten plenty of advice from aging care professionals and therapists over the years. The worst thing he can do is make his parents, who have lead complete lives, the number one priority. Your marriage and children and his health come first otherwise it all falls apart. It is all about boundaries and not engaging in any dysfunctional games like guilt trips,etc. Some challenging elderly will eat their young. He cannot set himself on fire to keep them warm. He has to find balance and your lives cannot revolve around their needs.[/quote]

Disagree.

If you were raised by loving parents, then you care for them as they age.

It’s no wonder Americans are in such dire straits. Far too many don’t have empathy.

I was raised by loving parents. My siblings and I are stepping up to help them as they age. We are modeling this sort of loving behavior for our children. This is what normal families do.

If the spouse wants to help her husband, then *help him* by taking things off his plate. Suggesting therapy to a busy guy isn’t helpful imho. [/quote]

if you have multiple siblings and are sharing the load, that is very different from what a lot of us are facing. Also you have to ask yourself what your parent would want. For example, I used to visit my mom on Friday afternoons but now my kid wants to do an activity that makes those Friday visits impossible. But I know that if my mom were healthy, she would want me to prioritize my kids (her grandkids!) over her, so I do.[/quote]

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