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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The best thing you can do is proactively make life easier/less stressful for your husband. Step up and help. Take things off his plate. Don’t ask him to do anything. Let him focus on his parents, and try to help. Don’t judge. Don’t criticize. He probably would feel like he doesn’t have the luxury of time to find a therapist and actually sit down to talk. [/quote] Noooo. I have lived this and gotten plenty of advice from aging care professionals and therapists over the years. The worst thing he can do is make his parents, who have lead complete lives, the number one priority. Your marriage and children and his health come first otherwise it all falls apart. It is all about boundaries and not engaging in any dysfunctional games like guilt trips,etc. Some challenging elderly will eat their young. He cannot set himself on fire to keep them warm. He has to find balance and your lives cannot revolve around their needs.[/quote]
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